That's a good question. I'm not sure what is the answer to your question. I'll do some research and get back to you if I bump into an useful answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably could give you help..
It bothers me a little (some of the women at work keep telling me I'm "disappearing" which..not really.) But I try to take it in the spirit intended, smile, and say thank you..
(It's also weird to me because I've always been so self-conscious about my weight and my body, so there's an element of it just being a little uncomfortable to know that I'm being "looked at," even in a complimentary, non-judgmental way. On the other hand, the ladies at work are probably less nerve-wracking than it will be to start dating again this summer, maybe..
Sassy...I haven't looked at it as receiving a compliment...you have a good point. That makes sense. Some of these people are good friends of mine...I should probably just be honest with them and tell them I don't like it, but at the same time I don't want to jeopardize my friendships over a comment like that...
I agree with Sassy, and frankly, if telling your friends that you don't like being called "skinny" would jeopardize your friendship...are they really your friends?..
Yeah..and believe me I'm no slim trimmings here either..but after losing 140 pounds already well of course they going to notice I lost weight LOL...but I still have a ways to go...people compliment on my weightloss all the time...like thats all they talk about with me and I get annoyed with it!.
I got called "omg steph you are getting skinny"..i just said thanks!..
Steph...that's another thing....that's all everyone wants to talk about...is how much I've lost and how I'm losing it and it is VERY annoying!!..
Maybe it's a euphemism for pretty and happy, cause that's what you look like, besides skinnier, and maybe that was more hidden before. Just a thought. People are funny. : ) Love the train ticker!..
If it were me (and it does happen to me as well), I'd just try my best to take it as it is intended, which is as a compliment. If it bothers you enough, maybe you need to do what you need to do, but I think it's just a shorthand way of supporting you and your weight loss without having a drawn out discussion about it...
I don't like to be 'skinny' or ' fat'. I want to be called healthy. Something I wish society would truly adopt as pc. The thought of me being skinny seems ridiculous!..
It's a compliment. I think you should be gracious and accept it for what it is. Also, from what I hear, the talk about your weight loss and how you did it will eventually die away and you will miss it...
There have been times where I've been completely embarrassed. People go ON AND ON. What makes it worse is when they do it in front of your obese friends who are still struggling. I just want to hide in a corner somewhere, like PUHLEEZE this is my body we're talking about. Then again I work in healthcare and I suppose they think since I know their weight they feel comfortable talking about mine..
Eventually it dies down and you might miss it a little bit. I just try to think how much it would suck and how offended I'd be if people weren't excited for me. It takes a lotta hard work, people should be proud and inspired! It deserves a hoot and a hollar sometimes. I used to be a lot more self conscious when I turned every corner and heard "SKINNY!", but it does help me in a way to reshape myself in my own mind. I constantly have to fight the "phantom fat" and convince myself that I AM skinny...
Wow, what a problem to have! Sucks to be you!.
You're right- it does feel rude when people call us objectifying names. But in this case, people absolutely do mean it as a compliment. Everyone knows what HARD work it takes to lose weight and it's their way of congratulating you on that. I know it can be embarrassing to have it brought to light that people do pay attention to each other's bodies, but the fact is that we do pay attention. And in this case it's positive attention. Whether it's right or not, people do think thinner looks better and it IS a big deal to make such a big change. Congratulations!..
Just smile and keep on inspiring them! It isn't often that people get to see real live in-the-flesh SUCCESS!!! And so you are a ROCK STAR to them!..
I prefer "skinny" to my face, instead of "fat" behind my back. People, (including us, I'd wager) will talk about people... size, hair color, clothes, perfume, after shave, etc. If not what else is there...."Ooo did you see that there is a new leaf on the potted palm in the lobby?".....(how exciting).....
I knew I could count on all of you for support....thanks for all of your input.....
I'm just going to keep my head held up high and keep saying "thanks" just like I've been doing. I know these people mean well...it just gets annoying that every time I see someone I know they have to make a comment or two about how I look. I'm just not too fond of the "skinny" comment.....
I have a couple of friends who make similar comments. While I know they do it because they are happy for me but it is annoying at times. One of them likes to say it everytime she sees me which thankfully is not often. Last time I saw her she yelled it across the lunchroom during peak hours...very embarrasing! The other only says it occasionally..
I'm sure they are just trying to compliment you...perhaps you can say a polite thank you and I have a little ways to go yet but I appreciate you noticing..
Best of luck!..
Thanks, Tarah....it's nice to know that others are in the same boat. It can be quite embarrassing, especially around other people..
You are doing great!!!! Good luck to you too!..
I'm not trying to sound harsh.. although it may come out that way.. but I would never ever mind if people called me too skinny.. My whole life I was under that category. Now no one says it... be careful what you wish for..
Just say thanks and move on...You've worked hard to get the weight off appreciate it and hold your head up high..
It's a whole lot better than being called FAT...
I'm totally on the same page as you are on this.
When someone calls me skinny (now) I just say "You mean.
, right?!" and give them a smile and a sincere "thanks!" That gets the point across in a positive way..
Having been painfully thin as a kid and the subject of very cruel comments about being 'skinny', I can say that the word has a negative connotation for me as powerful as being called 'fat' (and I've been called that too but not any longer thanks to MF.).
Just bask in your "Healthiness"!!!! You are doing wonderfully!! Interesting situation and thanks for sharing..
I feel the same way when someone makes more that just a passing, 'hey you are doing a good job' sort of comment. I don't mind a kudos, but acting like I am doing something fabulous, or now that I have lost weight I am more 'deserving' of the attention really bugs me. But this is how it makes ME feel, not, I am sure, of how it is intended. I don't know if this makes sense but it is totally MY ISSUE, that I have a problem with people complimenting me...because if I pretend I haven't been gaining weight, or if I ignore that my pants are getting way to tight, well then everyone else must be ignoring it too right....the comments make me realize I wasn't fooling anyone and I think that is why I don't like it..
Of course there are those people who have other motives too.......
I haven't read all the responses, but I wanted to reiterate that people probably see calling you that as a major compliment..
My favorite nickname these days is Slim. My girlfriend at work always greets me with a "What up Slim?" I love it!..
I understand from all the comments about what you mean exactly. Some people used to say.
"OMG you SOOOOO skinny in a tone that means EWWWW gross..
I can understand how someone saying it that way is NOT a compliment.. I get it..
And YES I do think people should think before they speak... but if that happened we would be living in a totally different world huh? Most people would never go up to someone and say.. WOW you sure look a lot fatter than usual. But when people say OH MY you are way too thin.. it's supposed to be a compliment...
Wouldn't it be nice if someone would just say... WOW you look FABULOUS?..
I have only lost 11 pounds to date ....been on the plan for 3 weeks. NOt even kidding about a dozen people called me skinny over the weekend. I liked it. It made me feel like I am finally getting results and it's noticeable. It actually gave me motivation.....and feel even stronger. But thats me.......
I think people generally mean well. I have been called "skinny", been told I am "wasting away" and that if "you turned sideways you would disappear." I just smile and say, "Yep and I've never felt better!". However when a co-worker blamed my bad cold on "losing so much weight you have no reserves to fight anything off" I couldn't let it go and said, "Yeah, I know, studies have shown that all that extra fat is a real immune system booster."..
I can totally understand what your saying, but, with the amounts of weight people are loosing on this program, people you know would pretty much have to be blind or living under a rock somewhere not to notice a change. I do like the "getting healthy" instead of getting skinny idea though...
I haven't lost nearly enough weight for that, but I'm with you, wouldn't bother me at all to be greeted that way...
LOVE this!! LOL!!.
Another thing, why is it that the truly skinny women always say, "now, don't get too thin"??..
I've lost 65 pounds in the last 7 months yet I have a friend who was shocked to over hear another friend compliment me on my loss. She's totally self-absorbed so I'm not surprised she hasn't noticed...
I totally understand. I work in a hospital and not a day goes by that someone doesn't call me skinny. my weight is all they want to talk about. don't get my wrong...it's nice to hear compliments like..you look great or congratulations etc. I feel pressure as well. I feel like they are waiting for me to gain the weight back or something...
When people call you "skinny" I think they are trying to compliment you. When folks say that to me I say "thank you, I worked very hard to change my body"...
I've also found that people are in awe of me and this is how they say it. Think about it-how many people have you known who have lost a ton of weight? It's so unusual that people who do lose a lot of weight and get skinny really stand out! I have friends that I only see every few weeks and one of them was floored on Sunday that I'd lost more weight...
I'm another one who was "skinny" i.e. underweight when I was younger. When I was 10yo I was 5 feet tall and weighed 140lbs. Not really fat I was at the beginning of puberty. By the time I was 15 I was 6 feet tall and weighed 140 lbs. This is on a pretty big frame.
Being called skinny was a cruel insult to a overly tall, gawky teenager. I managed to spend most of my 20's at a healthy weight and rather liked being called slim..
Maybe people calling you skinny mean it as a compliment but I see it as a passive aggressive way to put you down..
But then again when we let words have power over us it can lead to using food (or anything else) as comfort...
It is nice to have people compliment you and acknowledge your success, but as others have said, it can be really overwhelming. Especially when people just go on and on about it, EVERY time they see you. What annoys me most are the comments of "don't you feel so much better????" As a matter of fact I do, but I don't know why this question bothers me so much above all the others...
Well, many (most?) very overweight people got there in the first place because they were protecting themselves with a layer of fat. When the protection goes away many of us feel very vulnerable, so innocent comments can feel overwhelming. Just my 2 cents...
This is a great comeback!!! I am most definitely going to use this one. LOVE IT!!! Thanks for sharing!..
You are very right, Sassy..
A while back I watched a show....I want to say Dr. Phil...about a family and weight loss. It focused on one gentleman in particular, but talked about the whole family's issues. In it, the guy's sister had had gastric by-pass and lost a lot of weight. I remember her talking about the struggle with attention that she was having and felt as if putting weight back on was better for her because it would be a protective barrier. I remember thinking to myself: Like I would have that problem! I would be proud of looking good and have no worries! She is CRAZY! Well, guess what.
I can say that I wouldn't consider putting any back on, but I certainly need to become adjusted and working on dealing with the attention appropriately...